Laura Blundo, RLT, CPC-C is a certified Relationship Coach as well as Life Coach. Laura’s couples training has occurred with the Relational Life Institute of Cambridge, MA while also obtaining her Life Coach Certification with the Relationship Coaching Institute. Laura holds her advanced certification with RLI and previously her Associate Coaching Certificate with ICF. RLI offers a refreshing, innovative and effective approach to couples coaching. Laura was introduced to RLI during the painful experience of her own divorce. “I was desperate not to repeat the same mistakes again so I attended a RLI Skills workshop. It was actually something my husband and I were to attend together, but we didn’t make it. It was my desire to be a bit introspective and proactive in terms of what lay behind and ahead of me. I was QUITE clear on what my ex-husbands short comings were but my own were not that clear, I needed to find out what my part in it was. The first day of the 3 day workshop I became very clear on my bad deal. What I walked away from the workshop with was more than I could have ever hoped for.” A new passion for relationships, the ability to work with my son’s father to be effective co-parents and an awakening to my edges that allows me to be present in my relationships. I was recently asked to assist in the Relationship Skills workshop in NYC which I eagerly accepted. “This was so important to me. I knew first hand how powerful it was on a personal level, and I was honored to be a part of helping people become empowered in their quest for relational change.”
Expanding on RLT, I began training with Jan Bergstrom, LMFT in Arlington, MA learning PIT (Post Induction Training) of Pia Mellody’s Co-dependence model. This work takes our family of origin into consideration and the potential negative impact it has on our relationships today. “Jan is a master and my total guru for relational living.” The program is now called “Healing our Core Issues” and looks at the 5 core issues of self-esteem, boundaries, reality, dependence and moderation and how these needs were met (or not) as children. It looks at what relational traumas we may have experienced, possibly physical, emotional and or both. We then look into the coping skills (adaptations) that were developed as children in order to survive in the family system. Ultimately, you will learn how to develop new functioning skills and integrate them into your everyday life. Much like a new workout routine or diet..it’s a practice and requires time and commitment. This work is life-changing.
A new venture is with the APSATS community, the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists. Currently I have completed her training and working towards certification with this highly professional and much needed system of support of partners. The trauma, of this extreme intimate betrayal requires specific training so as not to further traumatize the partner. This model does not hold the partner as a 'co-addict' or 'co-dependent' but as someone who has been blindsided by their partners months, years and perhaps decades of lies and deceit. Since the discovery, much becomes 'about the addict' and the partner is left on the sidelines feeling unheard, confused, hurt beyond measure and utterly alone. APSAT specialists are here to help make sense and guide the partner through the difficult days, weeks and months ahead.
I am also engaged in continuing education with CoachU, PIT, APSATS as well as RLI. So much has changed in the last 15 years or so.. the data, studies etc are continuing to reveal new information with regards how we can positively shift our patterns for a better life. Continuing my connection with these cutting edge communities is essential in helping my clients be best they can be.