I am a certified Relationship Coach, Life Coach as well as a lover of all that life has to offer. I have been blessed to train along side some of the best therapists and coaches in the country and deeply feel the connection to relational work. I tell the truth, as I see it, with love and empathy and then provide the tools for healing and expansion. Some of us have been to counseling where there's not much feedback, they just listened. Listening alone is not enough. You can expect feedback, listening to understand, thought provoking questions, in between session exercises and reading. Clients are coming to me because they want change in their relationships and I in turn provide them with the ability to make that happen.
In my personal life, I am a wife and mother in a blended family of three grown kids. My husband and I reside in a lakeside town in NH and enjoy lazy days of summer boating on Winnipesaukee. I also have a passion for hiking the White Mountains of NH, gardening and the ocean. You could probably say I enjoy most everything that nature has to offer.
My credentials are with The Relational Life Institute of Cambridge, MA, Relationship Coaching Institute, CA. I also trained with Jan Bergstrom, LMFT in Arlington, MA learning PIT (Post Induction Therapy) of Pia Mellody’s Co-dependence model. This work takes our family of origin into consideration and the potential negative impact it has on our relationships today. Jan is a master and my total guru for relational living. The program is now called “Healing our Core Issues” and looks at the 5 core issues of self-esteem, boundaries, reality, dependence and moderation and how these needs were met (or not) as children. It looks at what relational traumas we may have experienced, possibly physical, emotional and or both. We then look into the coping skills (adaptations) that were developed as children in order to survive in the family system. Ultimately, you will learn how to develop new functioning skills and integrate them into your everyday life. Much like a new workout routine or diet..it’s a practice and requires time and commitment. This work is life-changing. How I arrived in this profession was through my own personal pain of divorce. I would have never guessed that something so painful could have led me to a new career.
A new venture is with the APSATS community, the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists. Currently I have completed the training and working towards certification with this highly professional and much needed system of support for partners. The trauma, of this extreme intimate betrayal requires specific training so as not to further traumatize the partner. This model does not hold the partner as a 'co-addict' or 'co-dependent' but as someone who has been blindsided by their spouses months, years and perhaps decades of lies and deceit. Since the discovery, much becomes 'about the addict' and the partner is left on the sidelines feeling unheard, confused, hurt beyond measure and utterly alone. APSAT specialists are here to help make sense and guide the partner through the difficult days, weeks and months ahead.
I am also engaged in continuing education with CoachU, PIT, APSATS as well as RLI. So much has changed in the last 15 years or so.. the data, studies etc are continuing to reveal new information with regards how we can positively shift our patterns for a better life. Continuing my connection with these cutting edge communities is essential in helping my clients be best they can be.