You're here... what happened? In the beginning of your relationship you were totally in love, laughing at each others jokes, finding each other crazy sexy and couldn't wait to create your future together. Maybe your story didn't go quite like that, but close to it. So what happened?
At that early time, if you were to rate your relationship between 0-10, chances are you were a 9 or 10. If you were to rate it today, what would you say? If you're here, exploring couples work, chances are it's a 3 or less. It is possible to bring it back to a 9 or 10? Absolutely! Is it the same steaminess of a new relationship? No. Is it better? More real? Yes. In our relationships, most of us desire to be loved, (even revered), honored, respected and supported.
Imagine a relationship where you can discuss your differences without a verbal smackdown or silence/avoidance. A relationship where there's no need to be right. Or, how about a relationship without passive aggressiveness? Imagine a relationship without being controlled or the need to be controlling. It's all possible, yet not without work. Maybe you grew up in a family who didn't model great relational skills...that's okay, most of us didn't. The good news is you can change that legacy, starting today. Setting the intention to be better, to do better is a great step. The next would be contact me, or another professional who will provide you with the tools and skills as well as overcome roadblocks.
And then there's the family to consider. Do you have kids? Do you want more for your children's future relationship than you have? You are the models, the most important influences in their lives. If you want something different for them, it starts with you. I know I'm being blunt, but it's the truth. People seek what's comfortable (familiar) whether is 'feels good' or not. Chances are, there are aspects of your relationship that closely align with your family experience. It's a legacy, one that will continue on unless the commitment and work is done to break the chain.
Please email or call me, we can have a thoughtful conversation about how I might be of help to you.