Coaching is not the same as therapy... we may touch on the past in order to understand where you are at today, but we won't linger there. The coaching model holds you, the client, as having the abilities to discover and develop the awareness and to take the actions necessary to bring you to where you would like to be. While we all have the abilities, it may be buried under fears, negative self talk, unconscious beliefs etc. Working with a coach provides the partnership, accountability, someone willing to ask the hard questions, be your accountability partner, walking along side of you and be your champion.
Do I really need a coach?
The next question... Are you, or your relationships at the level you would like them to be? How many times have you asked yourself why you're still having the same argument? Or why you're still experiencing the same flip flopping ? Do you "need" a coach? Maybe not. Could you and your relationship really benefit from working with a coach? Absolutely.
People have many different motivations for coming to coaching. Some may be going through a major life transition (unemployment, divorce, new job, etc.), or are not handling stressful circumstances well. Some people need assistance managing a range of other issues such as low self-esteem, relationship problems, and creative blocks. Coaching can help provide some much needed encouragement and help with skills to get them through these periods. Others may be at a point where they are ready to learn more about themselves or want to be more effective with their goals in life. In short, people seeking coaching are ready to meet the challenges in their lives and ready to make changes in their lives.
Because each person has different issues and goals for coaching, coaching will be different depending on the individual. Each session is structured with a beginning middle and an end. The beginning: What would you like the focus of the session to be? The middle: Working the focus... assessing where you are at vs where you want to be. What's standing in your way. What are some possible ideas for getting closer to where you want to be. The End: What are the actions steps you're willing to take between sessions. An accountability plan may be part of this if you feel it's needed to keep you on track.
It is important to understand that you will get more results from coaching if you actively participate in the process. The ultimate purpose of coaching is to help you develop the mindset and follow through in the areas you are wanting to focus on. Therefore, beyond the work you do in coaching sessions, I may suggest some things you can do outside of coaching to support your process - such as reading a pertinent book, journaling on specific topics, noting particular behaviors or taking action on your goals. People seeking coaching are ready to make positive changes in their lives, are open to new perspectives and take responsibility for their lives.